Once I did a survey amongst the people I interact regularly and asked them a simple question, what do they think about my sense of humor. Majority of them responded very diplomatically and indirectly that my humor is sarcastic as if sarcasm is not a good thing. A sizable percentage were confused and told me that what sort of question this is. I enjoy whatever your humor is. I thanked the confused mass and told them that others think that my humor is sarcastic. Then they tried to console me that its not true and mostly my comments are clever and quick witted. It seems some people really don't wanna hurt me :P. From this survey I came to know that people generally don't like sarcasm as a tool to be used to create humor. My opinion is absolutely opposite of the majority of this survey. I appreciate sarcastic comments and generally I have high regards for the people who are capable of using sarcasm to create humor.
Whats the point by saying something which is obvious and then expecting that others will enjoy it. Basically you are insulting them by questioning their intelligence. I know, sarcasm is bad when its intended to insult a person but then that cant be categorized as sarcastic humor. The thing which differentiates a bad sarcasm from a good sarcasm is the intention. Also your relationship with the person to whom you are talking and his common sense plays a strong role in deciding whether you are in safe zone or not.
In short, If you want me to take you seriously, don't say too many obvious things and you will make me happy by making few sarcastic comments. But this statement has a caveat. Keep two things in mind while making a sarcastic comment. Your intentions must be good and you have a good relationship with me. Of course, I have common sense so you need not think about it.
I wanted to talk more about the humor but unfortunately I have to do some important work :( I am not as free and useless as some people think of me :) You can comment and tell me what do you think about the sarcastic humor and my sarcastic comments. Don't worry you wont hurt me by saying that I offended you in the past by some sarcastic comments. If your relationship is good with me, I will safely assume that you don't have common sense :P If not then I will assume that however good my intentions are you will take it wrongly :P
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I like the sarcastic humor but it should be within limits. gnerally you manage to be in limits.
thanx anon. U have common sense :P
It would be nice if u leave ur name while posting a comment.
Arun, I read somewhere,
"He who angers you, conquers you"
So if the other person's sarcastic comments angers/upsets you, its you who lose out. As simple as that.
So certainly people should have this much common sense
English only, pleaseeeee.
Oh , is that so!! I see common sense has bluntly refused to make itself at home in you :P
I claim to posses common sense but i am open to believe otherwise if u will show too many examples like you pointed above :)
I didnt make a sarcastic comment in the last 17 days. That is the best thing that I have done in the last three months. I dont appreciate people much. I pass derogatory comments. And honestly, I get sadder when people dont like it, or worse, dont read it.
It is an amazing thing you know. One passes a derogatory sarcastic comment because it is a unique way of expression that does not come naturally to everyone. But the desire to have your comment noticed shows that although sarcasm have to compulsively express in tangled words, they do have the need for social affiliation. In that sense, a creator's understanding of the ways of the world is mediocre I believe. I say this because it is obvious that while the sarcasm wants to be seen as a 'complexity provider', the basic urge is to be UNDERSTOOD, and that too en masse. That is simply asking a lot from other fellows. This argument further strengthens my belief that a sarcastic comment is a highly disoriented, unsatisfying piece of art! It cannot fulfill what the artist desires because the demands from the consumer are just too big.
Any American would tell you that such an idea cannot work!
I am not claiming that I am the only such commentator who realizes this. Infact I think that all commentators know that what they are caught in is a SERIOUS MESS. But I think they continue this form of expressive confusion or confusive expression because it is an indication of the self' complexity to the self, which to me is something that engenders deeper philosophical questions of life.
sarcasm does help in realizing the need for self-actualization. So as Maslow would have it, it does get you high (and low!).
I remember studying in physics that the human body is not uncomfortable to high speeds, it is uncomfortable to accelaration. Similarly, the human brain is not uncomfortable with the speed of emotional development, only with the changes in that speed!
For example, aging brings in a level of emotional development in all of us. We are all very comfortable with aging. But one-off incidences that make us age faster are always painful.
sarcasm or anything creative written overleaf is one such BRIEF spike in the speed of emotional development. It hits the mind hard; and I am referring to both the writer's mind and also of the respectful reader. It is like being in a space ship!
@saras
Its nice to know your point of you and I appreciate the effort you made to comment here.
I believe you must be telling truth and your comment is in english. Keep commenting. One thing i wanna make clear is that i am very much against derogatory comments whether it be sarcastic or not. I dont believe insulting someone can make you happy. Making derogatory comments doesnt make you important or prove that you are more intelligent than others. Even if i buy your arguments then for me it doesnt work. "Its nice to be important but its more important to be nice".
Serendipity, I completely agree. I tend to be very sarcastic myself, but I am never (at least I try to avoid) being mean and rude. I think sarcasm can be a beautiful thing if used correctly! Ever watched the office? HILARIOUS. Lots of sarcasm there.
Also, I found a post ealier today about sarcasm and oxymorons that I think you'd enjoy. Cheers!
http://www.petermanseye.com/interesting-times/entertainment/355-matching-wits
@Tina
thanks for pointing to the link. Nice read.
@Tina
Do you mean office-office on sabTv?
@Tina
No, the hyperlink :)
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